🤎 Why We Struggle to Know What We REALLY Want 🤎
October is here, and with a new month comes the idea of setting new intentions and goals. But let’s be honest, how often do we stop to ask ourselves what we really want? It sounds simple, right? But the truth is, knowing what we want—and giving ourselves permission to go after it—can feel like one of the hardest things in the world. And if you’re anything like me, a busy midlife mom juggling work, family, and all the emotions that come with it, figuring this out can feel downright impossible. Between the school schedules, deadlines, carpools, activities and endless to-do lists, it’s easy to lose sight of ourselves.
The first reason we struggle is simple: we don’t make the time. In the chaos of our daily lives, we rarely give ourselves the silence needed to answer these tough questions. Instead, we keep pushing forward, living on autopilot. We carry the weight of everyone’s needs and emotions, so much so that carving out even five minutes to think about our own desires feels indulgent. Plus, the "Good Girl" legacy many of us grew up with is always putting others first, never rocking the boat, and living up to societal expectations. These deeply ingrained beliefs can make it nearly impossible to break free and pursue our authentic desires.
Let me share a personal example. For years, I've invested time and money into building my health coaching and mindset work business. I love it, truly. But lately, I've felt a pull towards exploring more of the "plenty" in life - fashion, makeup, and style. Yet, I find myself hesitating. The guilt of potentially "wasting" my previous investments and the fear of what others might think have been holding me back.
Sound familiar?
These emotions - guilt and fear of judgment - are often at the root of what holds us back from becoming the empowered, beautiful, kind, smart, and successful midlife mamas we can be. They're tied to our perfectionism, our need to be the "good girl," and our old, imprinted beliefs about who we should be.
But here’s the thing: it’s not about rejecting everything we’ve done up until now. It’s about allowing ourselves to evolve and grow. You deserve to pursue what lights you up, even if it means shifting gears. Your desires matter. Your joy matters. And sometimes, the bravest thing we can do is to listen to that inner voice that's calling us in a new direction.
This October, let's give ourselves permission to reflect, ask the hard questions, and dream without guilt. We owe it to ourselves to figure out what we truly want—and to stop getting in our own way.🤎
(In my next blog post, we'll explore practical steps to break free from these limiting beliefs and set meaningful intentions for the month ahead. Because, mama, it's time to step into your power and embrace all that you are and all that you want to be.✨)
